The Price of Peace
Peace doesn’t come from a sale. It comes from self-awareness.
Now that I’ve retired, I can finally see it for what it was.
I didn’t face the unhappiness. I buried it.
I was scared — caught in the quiet belief that “we’re not supposed to separate,” even when the marriage had become deeply toxic.
So I persevered.
I focused on my work.
And I spent.
We often call it retail therapy.
And yes — I used to be there, too.
After the divorce, it became clear: I wasn’t shopping for things.
I was searching for relief.
A moment of escape.
A little control.
A flicker of joy in a life that no longer felt mine.
I didn’t realise what I was doing — I was just trying to survive in the only way I knew how.
And I know I’m not alone.
Many women carry this. Some men do, too.
We chase that temporary high — the new outfit, the dinner, the package at the door — hoping it’ll fill the ache.
But most of the time, it isn’t rational.
It’s our desire… trying to self-soothe.
If you’re there right now — I see you.
Face it.
Talk about it.
And when you’re ready, choose peace over pretending.
Because your peace is worth more than the silence.
📁 Mind Over Money - In this powerful read, HumbleDollar explores how:
- Our mood influences spending
- Money memories from childhood still run the show
- Relationship dynamics shape what we buy and why
Peace costs more when we’re not conscious of what we’re really buying.
🕵️ Pause and Ask:
- Is this for comfort or clarity?
- Is it easing my mind or numbing it?
- Am I paying for peace — or avoiding a truth?
We don’t need to judge ourselves. We just need to get curious.
Because sometimes peace does cost money. A good bed. A quiet meal. A trusted accountant. But often? It costs less than we think.
🌱 Still Growing
Let your money reflect your calm. Not your chaos.
Choose peace. One quiet purchase at a time.You might think you’re being rational with money.
But as the article reminds us — most of us aren’t.
Every swipe of the card, every “I need this,” every little treat…
It’s rarely about the thing.
It’s about something deeper.
Are you:
- Trying to feel in control?
- Signaling success to others?
- Repeating money habits from childhood?
- Spending because your willpower is running low after a hard day?
🕵️ Pause and Ask:
- Is this for comfort or clarity?
- Is it easing my mind or numbing it?
- Am I paying for peace — or avoiding a truth?
We don’t need to judge ourselves. We just need to get curious.
Because sometimes peace does cost money. A good bed. A quiet meal. A trusted accountant.
But often? It costs less than we think.
🌱 Still Growing
Let your money reflect your calm.
Not your chaos.
Choose peace. One quiet purchase at a time.