The Pressure to Perform — and the Desire to Feel

As promised, let’s gently step into this tender but important space together.

You used to feel butterflies… now it feels like something to get through.

Between the mental load, hormone shifts, and unspoken expectations, intimacy after 40 can quietly change.
What once felt exciting might now feel like another thing to get through.

But here’s the quiet truth:
You still deserve pleasure.
And pleasure doesn’t begin with performance — it begins with presence.

💡 Rediscovering Intimacy Without Pressure

• Start with self-connection
  Slow down. Touch your own skin. Ask what you like — with curiosity, not apology.
• Make space for slow
  Rushing robs you of feeling. Try slowing everything down — touch, words, even how you breathe.
• Talk honestly
  You don’t have to pretend. Changing needs don’t make you less — they make you real.
  Honesty isn’t rejection — it’s intimacy with roots.

Here’s a beautiful guide on understanding and building intimacy

🌱 Still Growing
Sex doesn’t need to look like it used to.
It just needs to feel honest.
You’re allowed to want more — or want differently.
Start where you are. That’s more than enough.